Why casual #sex is rarely as satisfactory for women as it is for men ???

Miriam Stoppard is not surprised by research suggesting women are far more likely to achieve orgasm with a committed partner

Festive fun: But a casual hook-up at Christmas islikely to be better for him than her

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I lived through the age of Cosmo Woman when women were encouraged to play the field in search of the Big O. It always struck me that this move to chase casual sex in order to draw level with men was misguided.

We don't have men's drives nor their taste for rapid sex.

Some new research bears out my misgivings. For us, casual sex isn't that satisfying. 

This news will no doubt annoy the feminists who believe we live in an era where people of both genders can be sexually free and engage equally in the "hook-up" culture.

A lot of women aren't necessarily enjoying this. What women need to achieve orgasm can be very different from what they find in casual sex.

Only one quarter of women reliably experience orgasm through intercourse alone, according to a review of 32 studies conducted by Elisabeth Lloyd at Indiana University. Another third rarely or never have orgasms from intercourse.

"The way we view sex in porn, in movies and in books, people aren't talking to each other like, 'Oh, my foot's falling asleep, we need to move,'" she says.

Communicating about those kinds of particulars is especially tricky to do during hook-ups.

Like generations before them, many young women are finding that casual sex doesn't bring the physical pleasure that men experience.

This new research suggests why: women are less likely to have orgasms during uncommitted sexual encounters than in serious relationships.

Everyone assumed that with sexual liberation casual sex would automatically be pleasurable for women.

But emotions got in the way. A survey of 600 college students at Binghamton University found that women were twice as likely to reach orgasm from intercourse or oral sex in serious relationships as in one-night stands.

Similarly, a New York University study of 24,000 students at 21 colleges over five years found that about four in 10 women had an orgasm during their last hook-up involving intercourse, while eight out of 10 men did.

By contrast, roughly three quarters of women in the survey said they had an orgasm the last time they had sex in a committed relationship. That's attributed to practice with a partner, plus young men surveyed often admitted that they're less focused on sexually pleasing a woman they're seeing casually than one they're serious about.

With men not trying as hard, and women finding it awkward to talk about their needs in the bedroom, satisfying casual sex is difficult to achieve.

Source : http://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/health/casual-sex-rarely-satisfactory-women-2955904#ixzz2oJxgniL5